Are
You Losing Control?
Table
of Contents
Introduction
Losing Control?
Worried About Your Teen?
Confused About Your Role?
Chapter One
Your Changing
Role
What Will You Need As a Parent?
Parenting - Catalyst For Our Own Growth
Parent to Parent - Modeling Healthy Relationships
Chapter Two
Your Changing Relationship
What Will Your Teen Need From You?
• Time and Attention
• Guidance
• A Place They Belong
• Respect
• A Sounding Board
• A Role Model
• Values
Your New Role as Consultant
Chapter
Three
Communication - Much More Than Words
Effective Listening
Effective Talking
Arguing
Encouraging Communication
Much More Than Words
Chapter Four
Values - You're Wearing
Yours
Defining Your Own Values
You Are the Model
Parents as Consultants
Don't Wait Until It's Personal
Peer Pressure
Asset Building
Chapter Five
About Sex
Clarify Your Own Values
Know the Facts
Mate Selection
Sexuality is About a Lot More Than Sex
Homosexuality
Chapter Six
Alcohol and other Drugs
Making Abuse Less Likely
Educate Yourself
Establish Tolerances and Consequences
Model a Drug-Free Lifestyle
Delay First Use
Teach Refusal Skills
Detection
Chapter Seven
The Homefront
A Place Where Everyone's Needs Are Respected
The Family Council: Democracy In Action
House Rules Are For Everyone
Good Enough For Us Standards
Sibling Rivalry
• Understand It
• Set the Stage For Peace
• Dealing With Fighting
Chapter Eight
Engaging the Adolescent
Brain
Sleeping Sickness and Memory Atrophy
Movies and Television
Music
Video and Computer Games
Computers and Internet Access
Homework and Schooling
Influence, Not Control
Motivation from Within
When Effort Isn't Enough
Difficult Teachers
Lightening Up
Chapter Nine
Money Management
We're All Self Taught
Their Own Money
The Chores - Allowance Debate
Part-time Jobs
Money Management Plans
Role Modeling
The Family Money
Credit Cards - Money Management Grad School
The Value of Money
Chapter Ten
Keeping Them Safe
Nurturing Their Instinct for Self Protection
Managing Our Own Fears
Parenting in a Dangerous World
Curfews and Check Ins
Thrills and Chills
Friends
When Peer Pressure Isn't Positive
Chapter Eleven
Discipline That Teaches
What Exactly Is Discipline?
Won't Punishment Work?
How About Rewards?
Too Young for Responsibility
Natural and Logical Consequences
Whose Problem Is It Anyway?
Problem Prevention
Anger
Creative Conflict Resolution
Chapter Twelve
Mental Health
The Best Years Of Their Life?
The Work of Adolescence
• Determining Their Vocation
• Developing Their Own Values
• Exploring Their Sexuality
• Establishing Their Own Authority
No Perspective on Depression
Recognizing Teens at Risk
Suicide
• Warning Signs
• Evaluating Risk
• How to Help
Connecting With Counsellors
Eating Disorders
• Warning Signs
• What You Can Do
Living With the Pain of a Troubled Teen
Chapter Fourteen
Family Transitions
Building a Stepfamily
The Couple: The Foundation
New Family - New Home
Won't the Kids Loving Having a New ...?
Family Togetherness: Not For Teens
Siblings: The Spice of Family Life
Sex In The Family
Stepfamilies are Different
Families Have History
Chapter Fifteen
Older Teens - Young Adults
Negotiating A New Relationship
Living With a Young Adult
Modifying Expectations
Boomerang Kids
Examine Your Attitude
How Can I Help?
Support In a Crisis
Addictions and Abuse
Writing a Contract
RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
INDEX
